As courting rituals become increasingly virtual, are we turning into a crush-less society?
How the Game Is Played Most people I’ve spoken with who belong to online dating Web sites approach the process somewhat analytically (and with a hefty sprinkling of cynicism).
So getting a crush is still possible in the virtual dating world, it’s just not as immediate as in real life.
You can grow into a crush, but it requires getting over the blundering nervousness of the first date and giving someone the chance to open up and be more comfortable the next time around.
There’s something to be said for meeting someone for the first time—slowly learning about what makes that person special and letting the excitement and newness of the crush occupy your mind.
But since online dating, which is now popular across all age demographics, gives us all the information up front, does it also take away our ability to crush like we used to?
“You don’t have a first date that’s equivalent to the real world until the second date,” says Heather.
“At that point, you’re at the level as if you’d met them at a party,” which is to say that the first encounter awkwardness has diminished somewhat and you’re free to stop putting on a presentation and be yourself.
It included questions like “How many pillows do you sleep with?“You have the opportunity to perfect what’s put out there, which doesn’t happen when you meet someone in person.” People often put what they consider the best of themselves in their profiles, which doesn’t always translate to real life.(Does anyone really spend his free time running marathons?After all, those getting-to-know-you questions you’d ask on a blind date or an outing with someone you met at a bar have already been answered via the person’s profile.You know his likes and dislikes, whether he has kids or wants them, his occupation (and creepily enough, sometimes even his income level), and so forth.